PHILOSOPHY OF DISCIPLINE
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All children, especially pre-schoolers, present discipline problems.
At best, a pre-schooler is curious, inventive, eager and independent. At worst, he is obstinate and clinging. Children are
not born with the ability to reason right from wrong, acceptable/unacceptable behavior. They have very little self control.
It is our job as parents and caregivers to teach through guidance and example.
Throwing a temper
tantrum seems to be a two year old's favorite way of showing his displeasure. As quickly as possible we try to restore calm
and order. This teaches the child how to handle frustration and anger in a more acceptable manner. Be positive when talking
to him about his behavior. Tell him exactly what you want him to do, not what you don't want him to do. Support good behavior
with praise. As he becomes more calm, draw his attention away from whatever caused the outburst and do not mention the incident
again. Forget the unpleasant situation. As difficult as these outbursts are to cope with, they stop within a short period
of time as the child matures.
When caregivers are calm, the children usually follow through with reasonable/responsible
actions. Children are aware of and sensitive to the caregiver's feelings and reactions. Calmly give the command or request.
Be specific and brief, stress immediacy, and give the reason. If the child does not respond, explain slowly exactly what
you wish him to do. Be positive rather than negative. If he still insists on being contrary, he might be ready for some "time
out. All children love to say "NO"! Again, remember this is just a stage they are going through. Explain that this
is necessary that they do whatever you've asked them to do. An important point to remember is that children need consistency.
If you ask them to do something and they refuse, follow through. If it's not really important that the child respond to a
particular task, we might start out by asking "Would you please help me..." or "How would you like to ....‘.
Since you did not give the child specific directions, it is not necessary
to follow through. Of course, all children like to receive rewards, so a good way to get toys picked up, clothes put away,
etc., is "How about picking up these toys right now so we can go for a walk".
We encourage good
behavior in group play by complimenting sharing, taking turns, helping etc. The pre-schooler must learn that the world does
not revolve around his wants/desires. If the child isn't getting along in a group situation and is being aggressive, give
the command to "stop hitting" (or whatever), and then give the choice of continuing to play or leaving the group.
Give a reason for stopping whatever wrong he is doing, i.e. hitting hurts. Sharing is a very difficult thing for a pre-schooler
to handle. At home, everything ‘is possessive, aggressive - MINE. Away from home, although the child may be more passive,
they may soon associate certain favored objects as "mine". Sharing is something that cannot really be rushed but
should certainly be encouraged. Children go through a "grabby" period about the same time as the "Mine".
They claim ownership of any toy they have played with, are playing with, or will be playing with In the future,
When parents drop the child off at nursery school in the morning, the child will have less trouble with the separation
if the parent has a positive attitude. Assure the child that. We are very happy to have him with us, point out toys that might
be of interest to him, and assure him that his parent will be picking him up after school. A hesitant, nervous parent will
encourage a clinging child. Leaving a child with a caregiver is very difficult for many parents, especially new, first-time
parents. They feel guilty, sad, and lonely and worry about the quality of care that will be given to their child. All parents
are to be encouraged to visit our school, schedule a conference, or telephone as often as necessary, to be assured that their
child is receiving the best care. Until the parent feels comfortable with leaving their child with us and is assured of his
well-being.
In order to foster a Childs sense of identity and individuality, we encourage proficiency
in all play areas to develop both gentle and positive assertive behavior. Hopefully this will help a child to grow into a
caring and nurturing parent and a successful professional in the work place. At nursery school, a child usually develops/matures
more quickly than he would at home. This is not because of neglect, unloving parents; nor is it because the parents do not
devote their time and energies to the child's well being. At home, many things provided are automatically given to the child
before he has had a chance to ask for it. With minimum effort on the part of the child, through pointing and grunting, his
needs or wants are met. The parent does not always have the time or the patience to encourage language. Household duties,
other children, and other chores leave little time to effectively communicate. On the other hand, many parents feel the need
to push their child beyond his capabilities. Each child moves at his own pace, and pushing him can be more damaging than doing
nothing at all. Children learn so easily; everything is new and exciting to them. Watching their delight and amazement over
ordinary things can be a wonderful experience to all adults.
Nursery school teachers, more than actually teaching in the conventional
sense, teach by providing example. We do not "teach as much as encourage, play, respond, and enjoy. Nursery school is
geared for the young child's particular ability, unlike the later school setting to which the child must adapt to the system.
We
allow as much freedom as the child is capable of handling. If rules are broken, the child knows he must pay the consequences
- leave the room or group, sit on the time-out' chair, have the toy put away, etc.
Pre-school years should be
a time to play, a time for learning about the world more than learning from books-a time for growing, mentally and physically
- and just enjoying. Every child needs understanding, appreciation, encouragement, Support and help. Try to understand each
child's inborn individuality. However a child "turns out" depends on that happens to him in life, the way he is
treated, and the way he interacts with his environment.
We spend our time with your child, not just around your child. Our
time is spent being with him, talking, laughing, playing, and listening. We move from one project to the next at his pace
as the child gets older and his attention span is greater, we become more involved with the academic teaching, readying the
child for entrance to kindergarten. By the time the child is ready to begin his formal education, we, parents and caregivers
have hopefully instilled in him the love, wonder, compassion and strength necessary to go forward.
In
accordance with The manual of Standards for Child Care Centers,
p. 115, section 10: 122-6.8,
the following shall be adhered to:
DISCIPLINE
The
methods of guidance and discipline used shall be positive, consistent with the developmental needs of the Children and applied
with the knowledge and under standing of. The parent (s).
There shall be no use or hitting, corporal punishment, Abusive language.
Ridicule, or harsh, humiliating or frightening treatment, or any other kind of child abuse/Neglect/exploitation.
Discipline
shall not be associated with the behavior of Children,regard to rest, toilet training or food.
Children shall
not be Isolated without supervision.
Disciplines shall not be associated with the, withholding of emotional
responses or stimulation and shall not require the child to remain silent for long periods of time.